indulge yourself in what you do well. spend time with people who think you're splendid and who tell you so. celebrate yourself. mark the occasions of your life with friends and festivity. never get too old to have birthdays. train those close to you to appreciate shine time by giving them some. never leave an honest compliment unspoken. don't downplay your success. when you're in the limelight, invite others to share it. allow other people unimpeded shine time. nobody is in the spotlight nonstop. accept that you will shine, step back, then shine again. the moon has phases from dark to full. so do we. we're fully valuable throughout the cycle. at certain times, we just attract more attention.