media saturation & (of course) dumb boys

instant information isn't always good. don't get me wrong - information is a good thing, but some times there really is too much of a good thing. pregnant women do not need to read about every remote thing that can go wrong with the pregnancy or their baby. mommies-to-be have enough to worry about in figuring out how to raise a child, they don't need to worry about the .03% chance (or less!) of some bizarre, unheard of disorder affecting their child. i found this article very interesting: http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/8284167 not that i think the information shouldn't be available ... but we need to learn to police ourselves and stop obsessing. especially about things that are beyond our control. ok ... when you're diagnosed with having a problem pregnancy, the 'net will be a wonderful place to meet other parents who have been through it and give you information on what to expect and how to find the best doctors. but until it happens ... we need to stop worrying about the 'what ifs'

and i was bad the other day. never contact an ex. you think i'd learn this by now. i sent an email wishing an ex (that i miss very much ... but was doing ok with the moving on process ... or maybe not ... i did send him an email) a happy 4th. what did i expect from him? not sure. maybe a 'hi' or 'having a great 4th - wish you the best'. what did i want from him? 'i miss you'. what did i get? 'i kindda miss you ... don't know if i'm allowed to say that' WTF does that mean???? so it's totally put me into a spin for the last week and i haven't been able to get him out of my mind. now today ... i'm on match.com looking for a friend/ex's (ya, ya, ya ... need to break the ex habit i KNOW ... ) profile and stumble across the profile of the ex i'm missing. sooooo ... he 'kidda miss'es me ... but not enough to pick up the phone and call but will go back to the online dating thing. if you miss me ... CALL ME. if you don't and are looking to move on ... DON'T SAY YOU MISS ME.

-s

so here's my issue with blogs ...

on the one hand, the idea of an online journal is really kindda cool. whenever i get the urge to write something, i can. especially with the whole phone messaging option. i used to love keeping a diary, but i haven't been disciplined enough to sit and write for awhile. it's a shame because i enjoy writing and the manual process of putting ink to paper is very different from typing.

but my journal was always for my eyes only. blogging opens up your innermost thoughts to the world. is that always a good thing? when i'm ranting to get something out of my system it might be kindda cool that someone on the other side of the world can read it and relate to me. but do i want my best friend to read that post? my journal was always my place to put things that may be best left out of the public eye.

so i'm still figuring out the place for blogging in my life (convienently leaving my blog in an unadvertised location on my site ... at least for now) and i come across this article on boston.com: http://bostonworks.boston.com:80/globe/articles/070305_blogs.html about blogs and people who have been fired for the blogs. there's a very fine line of free speech here. on the one hand, we are (or at least should be by my reading of the constitution) free to speak what's on our minds and i don't think a company is going to fire the average person for bitching about the company over a couple of beers after work with friends. but when there's a public written record of this ... it's harder. it's one thing to verbally vent. another to present something in writing for the world to read - issues of slander come in to play. something written and published in the heat of the moment - an attempt to connect with other frustrated workers - is a different beast.

maybe blogs aren't a good thing ...

-s

more def leppard and dumb boys

def lep just keeps getting better! sadly i think last night was the last time i'll see them on this tour :o( but they rocked even in the rain! the show was a blast!

the one downer was the dumb boys. scott and his dad were awesome, but i'm guessing chris had too much to drink since he wouldn't keep his hands off me. a little flirting is one thing, but the boy is married and if i was his wife i'd kill him. whole point of flirting with the married boy is it's supposed to be easy to keep it just flirting. but he was great fun the last time i met him so i'm guessing it was 'just' the alcohol (not that that gives him an excuse!) this time.

soooo ... when lep puts out their cover album this winter, any chance they'll tour again???

-s

def leppard!!!, live 8 (political tangent), boys and girls at clubs (respect tangent)

def lep got some major coverage as part of the live 8 show in philly yesterday. unfortunately i don't really agree with live 8 - reducing poverty is a very admirable goal ... but global welfare by cancelling all debts and increase aid to poor nations (ok - reducing trade restrictions i do agree with) just seems like a bad idea to me. welfare doesn't work well on the local level. how is it going to be better on the global level? plus, ya, i'm self-centered .... but i really think we need to take care of ourselves and neighbors first before we try to solve problems on the other side of the globe.

anyway ... that was a tangent ... back to def leppard!! very cool that they got to play yesterday. if bon jovi can have a renaissance, why can't def lep? and on top of live 8 ... tray and i went out last night - started off at parris. dj pulls out 'no matter what'. the DJ pulled out something by def lep that wasn't 'pour some sugar on me'????? no way! i had to double check ... so i go ask him who does the song. tells me it was originally badfinger, but this was a cover. he offered me $10 if i could tell him who did the cover. thought he was some hot shot with that one. the look on his face was priceless - he did cheese out on the bet, though.

so ... parris was boring. band (flavor) was getting ready to go on and there were 5 people in the club that weren't employees. we bailed and went to tequila rain. not a huge fan of djs, but they pull out some of the most random stuff (vanilla ice, ice baby ... ) there. i don't know if i'm just getting old or what, but i'm getting really sick of the boys with the gropy hands. didn't their mother's teach them ANY manners??? ended up meeting a nice guy to dance with for a bit (scotty - figures he's from toronto *sigh* - in town to see the sox as part of a baseball road trip with some friends) which meant i got saved from most of the gropy boys but tray wasn't as lucky.

to the boys out there ... some basic rules:
1. when you are too drunk to stand, you are too drunk to dance
2. do not grab any part on a girl if you have not at least made eye contact with her and gotten a smile
3. if you do get the smile ... do not touch any body parts you wouldn't touch in front of your mother unless the girl takes the lead
4. dancing in a club is *not* sex ... do not try to have sex with us through our clothes
5. do NOT try to remove any article of clothing for us at the club!!!

maybe it's the fault of some girls ... giving boys the impression the all girls are willing to get on stage for a wet t-shirt contest and flash the crowd. not all of us are like that. some of us do like to dress sexy and are fully capable of blowing your mind (probably well more capable of it than those drunk bachelorettes pretending to be strippers on the stage), but we are a lot more respectable than that and you're not gonna find out how amazing we are until you stop treating us like the trashy chicks. of course, if all you want is the trash chick ... she's on stage flashing - go for it and let me know how that works out for ya.

and the stripper wanna be bachelorettes .... damn. and guys get blasted for bachelor parties with strippers (please note - i don't approve of bachelor parties with hookers 'entertaining' non-single guys) that is so much more innocent than becoming a stripper for your bachelorette party.

-s

Does mobile blogging really work? If so i may need to reconsider a camera phone...

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hrm ... i have a blog ... now what?

my 8 millionth attempt at blogging ... maybe this time it will stick? at least this time i *think* i have a purpose in mind for my blog - things rj and i do that i don't get pics of. the photo journaling is quick and easy and my favorite way to share events with friends and family, but sometimes i just don't have the camera (bad mommy!) ... or the pics just aren't good (or good enough). ooh ... and i like the idea of being able to send an update via my cell phone ... that's cool! :o)

-s