hook ups

recent boston.com article posed the theory that hook ups are bad for girls. not exactly a new theory. and i wouldn't disagree that as a long term way of life it's probably a bad thing. (we can paraphrase 'the wedding singer' here: fonzie's show got cancelled cuz no one wants to see 40 year olds hitting on young girls.) but hook ups for the right reason can be healthy. i really think my hook up with RF was one of the smartest and healthiest things i did. i was hitting burn out from the stupid boys i was trying to date ... he was a friend ... we knew what the rules were when we got involved ... he treated me well. it gave me the attention i needed and wasn't finding from my dates. it got me away from the dating drama. it helped me rebalance and prioritize what i wanted from a significant other. without that experience ... i don't think i would have recognized how special bill is.

-s