grandmothers
thoughts edited from a letter i sent to a boston.com reporter who wrote a wonderful article on being a grandmother ... wish i still had the link to the original article.
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i'm years away from becoming a grandmother (my little guy just turned 5!) and am in no rush ... but i do get very jealous of my mom's role as gramma! gramma sees the milestones i miss because they happen little by little each day - she sees the bigger picture. gramma always gets to give my son complete and undivided attention - she has all of the other days in the month to get the to do list done. gramma doesn't have the feedings at night, the comforting after nightmares that keeps mommy up 1/2 the night before a big meeting, the telling rj for the 800th time to get his shoes on so we can get to daycare and mommy can go to work - gramma gets to put everything else aside and just enjoy. one of the savings graces for me when i became a new mom was that my mother didn't go on and on to 'enjoy every precious minute ... they grow up so fast!' she knew (and admitted!) that new parents just can't do that - we're too busy learning to be parents, making sure we provide for our children, and trying to catch up on some sleep so we can take care of ourselves too that we just can't completely lose ourselves in enjoying each stage, each moment. that's what we get to do when we're grandparents :)
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i'm years away from becoming a grandmother (my little guy just turned 5!) and am in no rush ... but i do get very jealous of my mom's role as gramma! gramma sees the milestones i miss because they happen little by little each day - she sees the bigger picture. gramma always gets to give my son complete and undivided attention - she has all of the other days in the month to get the to do list done. gramma doesn't have the feedings at night, the comforting after nightmares that keeps mommy up 1/2 the night before a big meeting, the telling rj for the 800th time to get his shoes on so we can get to daycare and mommy can go to work - gramma gets to put everything else aside and just enjoy. one of the savings graces for me when i became a new mom was that my mother didn't go on and on to 'enjoy every precious minute ... they grow up so fast!' she knew (and admitted!) that new parents just can't do that - we're too busy learning to be parents, making sure we provide for our children, and trying to catch up on some sleep so we can take care of ourselves too that we just can't completely lose ourselves in enjoying each stage, each moment. that's what we get to do when we're grandparents :)
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